Whether it’s in the workplace, school or other situations where we must interact with other people, it’s a much more pleasant experience when we can foster good relationships with others.
Improving your relationships with others isn’t about them – it’s about you. When a good person is needed – be that person. When patience is needed – show and give patience. When understanding is needed – be understanding. When tolerance is needed – be tolerant.
We all come from different walks of life. Each and every one of us has our own unique background and set of baggage, meaning our personality quirks, shortcomings and attachments in our life that are part of our package.
Just like roses, we all have our thorns, but our strengths and beauty makes up for them. Accept people for who and what they are, realizing that none of us are perfect.
It’s easy to jump to conclusions and assume the worst about things. Instead, don’t assume anything at all. If you are unsure about something – ask. It’s the only way to know someone else’s motivation is or what they are thinking.
Allow the other person to explain things to you when you have doubts or concerns. Go by the rule that “everyone is doing the best they can” and give them the opportunity to help you understand them.
If you are truly concerned about someone’s background, then you can run a background check on them to make sure that your interactions are safer. For the most part, save background checks for potential babysitters or first dates rather than being suspicious of everyone!
Learn to be tolerant, patient and forgiving. All of us, at one time or another, unintentionally slight another person. It may be a sharp tongue or even a tone of voice that implies a certain attitude. Remember that we can’t always know what someone else is going through and what may put them in a certain mood on one day versus another.
Small slights or perceived ones can be easily forgiven, with no need to say anything to anyone. However, if someone hurts you deeply, and it’s something you can’t get over or let go, then tell them so – and not in anger. Give them the opportunity to understand how you feel and apologize – and be willing to forgive them.